However, deep inside they feel something is not okay. They are not happy nor fulfilled. They cannot open up to the other. They prefer distance. The more hurt they are, the more they shut themselves down. They feel that their relationships are always doomed to failure.
The real issue with avoidant individuals is their fear of being seen vulnerable. It is fear of intimacy. You may ask what intimacy is. Well, it means just as the word says it = into me see (intimacy). Intimacy in a love relationship is opening up yourself (feelings, needs and desires) to the other person. Being unable to expose one’s inner self to the other implies that the person does not fully accept who he is yet.
Fear of intimacy is also fear of seeing yourself as you really are. If you are unable to get close to someone, do not push yourself hard. First of all, try to be kind to yourself and open up deep inside. Try to be in touch with your emotions and what your really are going through. This might be really scary and difficult for people who are not friends with their emotions.
Psychotherapy helps individuals be in contact with their feelings even the most difficult and buried ones. This process is very beneficial since it allows the person to free himself from the emotional wounds and past that affect his current relationships.
Individuals who are unable to open their hearts to themselves will not be able to open their hearts to important others. They will always end up in unsatisfying relationships.
Being able to be intimate also means being compassionate towards oneself and loving oneself for all the qualities and faults that we have. Only when you are able to be intimate with yourself, will you be able to be intimate with another person. This is very important.
Discover Your Other Side
What is it all about?
It is wrong to believe that psychotherapy is for crazy or sick people.
We all have personal experiences that have left some impact on our lives whether positively or negatively.
There should be no shame in seeking psychotherapy.
Relationship issues, depression, low self-esteem and other stressful situations can exert a lot of pressure on your life and make you feel trapped.
No matter how hard you have tried, you end up always feeling the same. You need not be alone. Seek change.
Adolescents’ behaviors reflect a lot of the chaos and tensions boiling within them.
Even though it is a turbulent time, adolescence is also potentially positive,
because one’s true identity can emerge when these internal tensions are approached and handled correctly.
It is wrong to believe that if your child is not causing you any trouble, then he or she is doing okay. You children depend on your attention and awareness to changes in their emotions and behaviors.
You do not have to go through your difficulties alone. A support group can help you connect with other individuals facing similar issues or challenges.